We've all heard of menopause of course, where a female in her 50s experience changes in her life. Most of us know what menopause is, because we've either lived with someone going through the change or you've experienced it yourself.
But manopause … what's that? If you have heard of manopause, you might have only heard the jokes:
When Mike turned 50, his manopause kicked in and he bought a Corvette and then drve it off a cliff.
It is said that men who are experiencing manopause do not have hot flashes, but hot flashbacks to the days when they could party all night.
Men who are suffering from these same symptoms of menopause may not laugh at these jokes. Some of the symptoms can include anxiety, dry skin, moodiness, irritability, night sweats, weight gain, and depression. When men admit that they have some of these symptoms, they are often poo-pooed as simply having a 'mid-life crises'. Manopause is not as obvious as menopause, as far as the symptoms go because, let's face it, men will not talk to their spouse or doctor about the topic and it would be very surprising if they even talked to their best friend about it.
“Hey, Joe, I feel a little bloated today.”
“Yeah, Sam, I understand. Yesterday I was so cranky I just said the hell with it and went shopping, told my family to leave me alone and ate some chocolate.”
Just because we do not talk about it or can not find much research about it, does not mean the condition is not real and that it does not exist. Often manopause hits men between the ages of 40 to 60 as testosterone declines. Men in this age group often have lower sex drives and their struggle to work hard for their family or overextended finances, such as college funds, etc. causes anxiety and the flare-up of symptoms. Often, their spouse is wanting more meaningful sex (women's sex drives often peak between the ages of 40-50) and their companies are hiring youngger, more handsome and energetic men (and sometimes these newly hired men know more about technology). This all adds stress, restless sleep and weight gain for those men going through this turbulent time.
If you know a man with these symptoms, realize that it can be a confusing time of life. Encourage them to open up about their struggle; they do not have to go through this alone. According to the authors of MANOPAUSE: Your Guide to Surviving His Changing Life, there is a plus to his lowered testosterone levels. They believe it brings out positive qualities such as:
• Able to talk and connect more
• Ability to bond more deeply
• Desire to make sensuous love
But is not there anything else I can do speaks and have patience, you may ask. Treating testosterone deficiency in older men can be a solution to some of these symptoms. Testosterone Replacement Therapy (TRT) can be a safe, effective treatment for men experiencing manopause symptoms. See a doctor if you are experiencing these symptoms and you can decide together if this is a viable option for you.